5 Steps to Happiness

5 Steps to Happiness


Hello. I hope you’re having a fabulous day. Once again, I was looking through my bookshelf. I’ve been trying to read ten pages a day. I read The Answer is You by Michael Bernard Beckwith. Somewhere I’ve got an autographed copy of it. It’s a shorter book, so I thought that would be a good one to start with. As I was reading it, I underlined the word discipline, which most of us have a negative response to discipline. “The word discipline shares the same root as disciple.” Did you ever think about that?

“Disciple Meaning: one who is in the process of being ready to learn.” We are all disciples of happiness. We’re all disciples of joy, but are we disciples of making the difference in our world or taking the steps necessary to create the joy that we love or create happiness in our world?

Answers Within

Whenever someone asks me what I do for a living, I always say, “I teach people how to be happy.” And when Joeaux and I were traveling every weekend, that was the easiest response. But, now, when people ask me what I do for a living, it’s shifting. It’s like I help people discover the happiness within themselves, and I’m discovering my happiness in the process. And really, the answers are truly within you.

That’s what in this book is, The Answer is You. The answers are truly within you, and it seems so simple most of the time. It may not be easy, but it does seem simple when you stop and think of the components of being happy. So what are the components of being happy? Well, Michael Bernard Beckwith, who I love, he’s so eloquent; I love the fact that he makes up words, too, just like Adironnda does.

Time-Tested Practices

He says that one of the components to happiness is to first tap directly into the root of our inherent joy through our time-tested practices, such as meditation, affirmative prayer, contemplation or spiritual study, life visioning, and selfless service. I think that’s what we’ve been saying for 20 years now. I mean, it’s so true that when we tap into our own stillness when we tap into selfless service, we get happier. When we tap into the visioning process, we actually get happier with our lives.

Number two is to move through life with an affirmative point of view. How often do you catch yourself pointing out to yourself, “That can’t happen”? So Joeaux and I have been tossing around a new project that we want to create. I hope we get it created because I think it will be really fun and good.

Inspirational Message

It’s an inspirational message every month on jump-starting your month. And we were trying to find a day that would work for me, work for her, work for our videographer, work for the church where we were going to produce it from, work for everybody, and we stopped, and we said, “What are we missing?” Well, we’re missing the fact that the perfect date and time may be directly in front of us, but we think that it has to be on Monday or it’s got to be the last of the month, got to be here there or yon. And so we just allowed it to unfold, which made us both feel very happy.

Seed Planters

According to Michael Bernard Beckwith, the third way to happiness is to realize, I love this one, to realize that we’re all on the same planet to deliver our gifts, talents, and skills without attachment to the outcome. How many times have you ever given somebody suggestions and they didn’t follow them, and then they go to some workshop or go to a class or have a reading or whatever, and they came to you and said, “Oh, I’ve got this great idea. And this is what I’m going to do.” And it’s the same thing that you’ve been telling them for a year or two.

You see, you were just the seed planter, but until they were ready to hear it, they didn’t get it. So when you work on that, it’s not being attached to the outcome, not being attached to the way things are developing based on whatever you are doing or attempting to do.


Another item is genuine happiness to drop our false sense of self-importance. Our egoic notions that the world revolves around me. Take a deep breath on that one. Because in the past we have all, I know I’ve taught this, that you are the star of your own movie and all the players are supporting players in your world, but that’s not the same thing as feeling self-important. Some people, I know you know people that do the one-upmanship, that do the, you are telling a story, and then they say, “Oh, well, I’ve got another story.”

A lot of people gravitate towards that kind of one-upmanship. So whenever you hear it or witness it, stop and ask yourself, “Do I do that?” They say that anything that irritates you in somebody else is something you carry within yourself or are healing within yourself. So that self-importance, according to Adironnda, is a mask for really having low self-esteem. It’s not the key to happiness. So when you catch yourself in that habit, stop it.

True Happiness

The book also says a person with happiness has captured a vision for their life beyond living on me and mine plan and instead is living on the gratitude is the abracadabra of your life. Now, Michael Bernard Beckwith didn’t use that phrase. Joeaux uses that phrase. Michael says, “Gratitude is the wellspring of happiness.”

To clarify in the mind so that we may set opportunities and possibilities which abundantly surround us, and we do that through gratitude. So when you acknowledge your feeling of happiness, when you acknowledge your essence of, are you happy or are you not happy, ask yourself who’s responsible for that happiness and what is it proactively that you can do to be happy? And if it involves someone else in your world, that’s not true happiness because that true happiness comes from within. That true happiness comes from inside of you, and I’ve just given you five tips on how to acknowledge that. So enjoy your happiness this week. Namaste, y’all. Namaste.

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