Hello! I was looking through my bookshelf, looking for another book on animals because I’m looking for an animal that was not in my animal speak book. And I wanted to see what it was. I ran across a book that I got on one of my first flights around 2000 as I was traveling more on my path. The book is called Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood by Rebecca Wells.
Now that book is, in places, is challenging to read. But that’s not what I want to talk to you about, the difficult parts. What I want to speak with you about is friendship. And reading that book reminded me of my girlfriends when I was growing up and the times when we argued and fought, how we would get back together, and about girlfriends now and how that all changes.
And boyfriends. I mean, I know guys get together in a different way than girls do. I would love for the men to leave a comment on our Adironnda Family of Love Facebook Group expressing what guys do when guys get together because I can’t address that because I’m not a guy.
I am talking about friends and getting together with people. I hear a lot of people in our business sometimes say, “Well, I don’t really have any friends.” I’ve said that myself. Well, sometimes you get the opportunity to blow on the embers yourself and kindle a friendship. My friend Tracy met somebody at a yard sale, and now they’re best buds. Tracy wanted to find a friend to travel places with. Joeaux and I are always working, and I’ve now started to chisel out time to play. But it is a matter of changing habits.
I want to point out that when you have girlfriends or guy friends, you get the opportunity to be a friend yourself. Sometimes, you get the opportunity to be available, talk or vent, play, and dance, or do nothing together. You get the opportunity to be a friend. And there’s just nothing better than I think girlfriends and guy friends hanging out together. Not necessarily mixed company, although that can be great too. That changes the dynamic somehow.
Several years ago, five of us went to the Cree Sun Dance ceremony in Canada. We drove an RV, and we would sit in that RV and would talk for hours. And I learned things about people that I’d known for 10 and 20 years. I learned things about them that I never knew before. It was so wonderful. That’s what friendship is. It’s about being with somebody and being a friend yourself, being open to chiseling out that space in your life for someone else. Once you do, it’s a beautiful experience.
In the past, I’ve not been very good at socializing. I know that you’re thinking, “Oh my goodness, you socialize all the time.” That’s when I have a task. When I have a job that I’m doing, I know where my part is. But to just socialize, I’m getting better at it. I’m getting better at talking with people I don’t know and asking them questions to share who they are.
That’s what I want you to think about this week, is who can you call up or contact to say, “Let’s go have a cup of tea,” or “Let’s go chat over lunch.” A guy friend or a girlfriend and see what happens. Or maybe you have a little potluck at your house and say, “I’m having a get-together. We’re going to watch the Double Digit together. Come on over, and let’s chat and get to know each other.” Friends are important. Friends can be your support, advocate, language police, and reflection, so you get to learn and evolve.
So this week, think about that. Think about getting out of your comfort zone. What is it that they said on the Double Digit last month? You’re standing on the edge of your comfort zone; now step off. Getting out of your comfort zone and stepping into friendships that can become very important to you. I know my friend Tracy is very important to me. As are you, so see how that works. Anyway, love you. Namaste, y’all. Namaste.
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