We are continuing with our series of the Eightfold Path according to the Buddhist tradition, in celebration of our Thailand retreat and our Visionaries in Light Convergence. Not that either one is really for only Buddhists, but the Buddhists on our council and in my meditation, I was to share some of their teachings since I have been sitting with the theme of our Thailand retreat, “Awakening the Buddha Within“.
Meaning of The Eightfold Path’s Right Speech
The third of the Eightfold Path is right speech. Now to me, that is obvious. However, it is really about speaking and communicating your truth in a way that others can hear it and speaking your truth in a way of sharing it in peace, love, and compassion. It is about acknowledging the intent of always speaking with integrity, but it is also about how you communicate things.
I was listening to a family the other day, and the mother, I am guessing, the mother said something to the father and it was said with a little bit of an accusatory energy, just a touch. So then the father got upset and did the, “Well, la-de-da-de-da-de-da,” and spoke back with the escalation of energy. Then the mother came in and escalated the energy even higher to top that energy.
And then the son, the little boy, I don’t know, he is probably 10 or 12, came in and was asked a question. Now he was not in that conversation, but he came in and asked the question, and both parents jumped on him with the same escalation that they were having their little repartee with each other. That is not right speech.
So, when you feel that accusatory energy in your speech or you feel that defense energy in your speech, know that you are coming from a place that is not regarding the situation right now at hand. You are coming from a place that involves something that happened to you yesterday or the day before. When you bring that kind of communication into a present situation, sometimes that present situation escalates because of the two, once it escalates, nobody listens to anybody else. And I believe that the Buddha was teaching us right speech to help us learn that communication style, to help us learn how to speak our truth in the totality of integrity.
My truth may not be your truth. My belief system may not be your belief system. However, I honor you for your beliefs, and I would hope that you would honor me for my beliefs, but that is not in my control. The only thing that is in my control is how I communicate with an open heart and intent of communicating in a peaceful, understanding way. Exactly what is my truth in what I feel lead to communicate? I believe that is right speech. And when that happens, it is bliss-filled.
So pay attention this week to your speech, to your communication, and the way you sound in your communication, and the way you are expressing your words. I know sometimes people say, “Well, you don’t have to yell at me,” because I am a passionate person and I get very focused, and sometimes my voice raises. It is not that I feel like I am angry or yelling, but I get the opportunity to be aware that that intent of mine may not be coming through in the tone of voice that I am using. We all get the opportunity to learn and listen and connect with different things. Again, this is my interpretation, and the Buddha is on our council. It is our interpretation of what was meant by the Eightfold Path, the third being right speech. See how you can pay attention to that this week. We will see you next week.
We all get the opportunity to learn and listen and connect with different things. Again, this is my interpretation, and the Buddha is on our council. It is our interpretation of what was meant by the Eightfold Path, the third being right speech. See how you can pay attention to that this week. We will see you next week.
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